Criticism is common on this island! 🏝️
A lesson from Micronesia (Yes, it's a country on our planet!)
If you want to grow, seek criticism, not compliments.
Heidi Sigrah Floyd, 29
The Federated States of Micronesia is a country spread across the western Pacific Ocean comprising more than 600 islands. Micronesia is made up of 4 island states: Pohnpei, Kosrae, Chuuk and Yap. Particularly in Kosrae, criticism among family and friends was a customary display of affection and admiration, far more prevalent than compliments. While Western families believe in showering children with praise, in Kosraean culture, it was common to see the pride in accomplishments chipped away by teasing and jokes – yet the underlying love and respect were always evident in their actions.
Heidi learned this early in life; regardless of her victories or accolades, her family refrained from showering her with compliments. Instead, they offered comments that often left her feeling disappointed. Even as a grown woman, the sharp remarks continued. Yet, Heidi wouldn't have it any other way. She understood that these cutting words, though seemingly harsh, served as her motivation – a push to excel and better herself.
She learned 2 things-
She realized the futility of competing with others and instead chose to focus on her personal growth and improvement.
She understood the true value of criticism. While compliments may offer satisfaction, it was criticism that pinpointed areas for development, which helped her continually grow as an individual.
In her lesson to the world, she concludes that she always embraced compliments with all her heart. And likens criticism to fire that purifies gold, similarly strengthening and purifying her character.
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